Question 1

“But I’m not getting hit, so is it really domestic violence?”

Accepted Answer

Yes. Domestic violence isn’t just about hitting. It can include emotional abuse (like insults or threats), psychological control (isolation, intimidation), financial abuse (controlling or stealing money), sexual abuse, and coercive behaviours that cause fear, shame, or dependence. Abuse is about power and control, not just physical harm.

We use the term “domestic violence” to refer to a broad range of harmful behaviours that happen within intimate or family relationships. Some organizations now use terms like “intimate partner violence” or “family violence” to better reflect the many forms abuse can take and the variety of relationships it can occur in, not just romantic partnerships.

If you feel unsafe, disrespected, or controlled in your home or relationship, it’s valid and you are not alone.

Question 2

Isn’t abuse something that only happens to people who are dependent or isolated?

Accepted Answer

No. Abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of their confidence, income, or social connections. While some survivors may be financially dependent or isolated, many are strong, independent, and well-connected. Abuse is about power and control, not about how capable or resourceful someone is.

Question 3

Isn’t an abuser usually someone with a bad temper that everyone can see?

Accepted Answer

Not always. An abuser can appear charming, respected, and well-liked in public, often maintaining a positive image at work, in social circles, or in the community. Abuse often happens behind closed doors and can be carefully hidden. It’s important to remember that someone’s public reputation doesn’t reflect what happens in private.

Question 4

If I’m new to Canada, do I have to stay in an abusive relationship to keep my immigration status?

Accepted Answer

No. You do not have to stay silent or remain in an abusive relationship to protect your immigration status. There are legal options and resources available based on your specific situation.

To learn more, visit the Information for Non-Canadian Citizens (https://www.willownet.ca/legal-info/non-canadian-citizens/)page on WillowNet (CPLEA) for detailed guidance on abuse and the law in Alberta.